Comments on: What it Means to Be a Man

By: Andrew

Andrew — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 11:31:55 +0000

I think I already have my answer, withouth a doubt, women definetley expect a lot more from men than we men expect from women

By: Live to Entertain | Inner Game Reframe

Live to Entertain | Inner Game Reframe — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:58:39 +0000

[...] was very inspired by your words, especially this article and the article on finding your mission. I thoroughly searched for my mission and it is: [...]

By: Alex Strandberg

Alex Strandberg — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 17:41:50 +0000

Hey TS,

Answered your questions here: http://innergamereframe.com/live-to-entertain/

By: TektonikShift

TektonikShift — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 08:12:58 +0000

Hi Alex I would like to ask you something regarding this.

I was very inspired by your words, especially this article and the article on finding our mission. I thoroughly searched for my mission and it is: entertaining people, making them smile through humor. One of the things I want to leave behind after I die is laughter. I want them to feel entertained and laugh when they think about me.

I feel that I have often entertained people by not saying what came to my mind in that moment, and instead by making up stories or adding some extras, especially because
1) humor can be subjective; one ironic remark or a joke may create totally different reactions in different people – so I add a little coloring, spice up and distort the truth; or tell totally different things according to the different audiences or people listening to me (from the very moment I introduce myself)
2) being completely honest is not always very entertaining. Also you said it in the article. It can actually make you loose friends (instead of making them laugh).

I almost think that, in order to entertain, I project a different “persona” with every different social group I am in. A bit like professional comedians do… but I try to entertain all the time, in my daily life, wherever I am

I have noticed that this doesn’t always allow me to grow deeper relationships with people, unless I interact with 1-2 people at a time (but usually I spend most of my time among larger groups).

What do you think about this?
How can I entertain, make people laugh (especially if they are from different backgrounds; especially because the same joke doesn’t work on everyone) and be completely honest/integral at the same time?

By: Alex Strandberg

Alex Strandberg — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 17:10:54 +0000

@Johannes: Agreed. Recognizing that you have a choice is the most important lesson to learn when it comes to getting better with women and in life. All the other things are important but are meaningless without that choice.

Improvement is never made unless you believe you have a choice, a say in your life. Without it you are simply hoping something externally will change in order for you to be “happy.”

If you don’t believe you have a choice you can’t teach her that she has a choice as well. Relationships that don’t grow die and she (or you) won’t grow without that choice.