Comments on: Not Leading: Biggest Dating/Relationship Mistakes Part Four http://innergamereframe.com/not-leading-biggest-datingrelationship-mistakes-part-four/ Better than Your Average Dating and Relationship Websites Tue, 13 Jul 2010 04:09:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Alex Strandberg http://innergamereframe.com/not-leading-biggest-datingrelationship-mistakes-part-four/comment-page-1/#comment-3339 Alex Strandberg Tue, 13 Jul 2010 03:58:41 +0000 http://innergamereframe.com/?p=345#comment-3339 Born and if you aren't born one, YOU are SCREWED. Some men are more comfortable with being submissive (yin) and letting women lead (yang) but that's a small minority. If you think you are that way, close your eyes and imagine a woman telling you what to do, how to do it and when to do it. Then close your eyes and imagine the opposite. What feels more comfortable and right for you? You might have to preform this exercise several times before you get an idea of what you desire. If you are more yin (follow) then you need to find a woman who is more yang (leader). If you find a woman who is more of a follower, both of you will be unhappy-the same as it would be if two leaders dated. Born and if you aren’t born one, YOU are SCREWED.

Some men are more comfortable with being submissive (yin) and letting women lead (yang) but that’s a small minority. If you think you are that way, close your eyes and imagine a woman telling you what to do, how to do it and when to do it. Then close your eyes and imagine the opposite. What feels more comfortable and right for you?

You might have to preform this exercise several times before you get an idea of what you desire.

If you are more yin (follow) then you need to find a woman who is more yang (leader). If you find a woman who is more of a follower, both of you will be unhappy-the same as it would be if two leaders dated.

]]> By: Andrew http://innergamereframe.com/not-leading-biggest-datingrelationship-mistakes-part-four/comment-page-1/#comment-3299 Andrew Wed, 30 Jun 2010 14:21:45 +0000 http://innergamereframe.com/?p=345#comment-3299 Do you have to be born a Leader or are Leaders made? Also, do you think women expect a whole lot more out of men than men expect out of women in dating/relationships, boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you have to be born a Leader or are Leaders made? Also, do you think women expect a whole lot more out of men than men expect out of women in dating/relationships, boyfriend/girlfriend?

]]> By: Alex Strandberg http://innergamereframe.com/not-leading-biggest-datingrelationship-mistakes-part-four/comment-page-1/#comment-3259 Alex Strandberg Sun, 13 Jun 2010 03:50:28 +0000 http://innergamereframe.com/?p=345#comment-3259 It's an exercise to let go of neediness and attachment. Once you do that enough times and release some of the issues holding you back you learn to balance yourself more. For example, I tell people to do something dumb or embarrassing in public. Once they get over that fear they shouldn't (at least I hope) don't continue to embarrassing themselves. It’s an exercise to let go of neediness and attachment. Once you do that enough times and release some of the issues holding you back you learn to balance yourself more.

For example, I tell people to do something dumb or embarrassing in public. Once they get over that fear they shouldn’t (at least I hope) don’t continue to embarrassing themselves.

]]> By: Jenny http://innergamereframe.com/not-leading-biggest-datingrelationship-mistakes-part-four/comment-page-1/#comment-3184 Jenny Thu, 27 May 2010 21:01:00 +0000 http://innergamereframe.com/?p=345#comment-3184 I have to say one thing about this. I liked a lot of it but I wouldn't suggest walking away to see if someone will follow you if you are only with 1 other person or to test a girl. I had someone do that to me a guy, and I am a girl, he did it a few times. And I didn't think he was a leader... I simply thought he was odd. It made me much less likely to want to date him. Now that may be because I myself am the leader type and it was against my grain to follow him. Non-verbal language is very interesting that way. Maybe he was testing me to see if I'd do what he wanted - nope. :) Even though this guy was attractive I didn't trust him because of the behavior of walking away like that. I have to say one thing about this. I liked a lot of it but I wouldn’t suggest walking away to see if someone will follow you if you are only with 1 other person or to test a girl. I had someone do that to me a guy, and I am a girl, he did it a few times. And I didn’t think he was a leader… I simply thought he was odd. It made me much less likely to want to date him. Now that may be because I myself am the leader type and it was against my grain to follow him. Non-verbal language is very interesting that way. Maybe he was testing me to see if I’d do what he wanted – nope. :) Even though this guy was attractive I didn’t trust him because of the behavior of walking away like that.

]]> By: Alex Strandberg http://innergamereframe.com/not-leading-biggest-datingrelationship-mistakes-part-four/comment-page-1/#comment-768 Alex Strandberg Wed, 29 Apr 2009 03:54:18 +0000 http://innergamereframe.com/?p=345#comment-768 Hey ChangewithSytle, That's a great question! I started writing a reply then decided I was going to do a full post on your question. I will post it after I post part two and three on How to be confident. Alex Hey ChangewithSytle,

That’s a great question! I started writing a reply then decided I was going to do a full post on your question. I will post it after I post part two and three on How to be confident.

Alex

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