Honor or let them go. Part of the way I look at relationships is as a partnership or teammates. Working together to achieve a goal (plus sex, love and happiness). For what I’m doing my girlfriend believes in what I’m doing and most importantly believes in me.

We do better and more by being together. If she wanted to be a famous painter (she’s actually really talented) then I wouldn’t be able to accomplish as much as I could without her. Could I do a lot if she wanted that path? sure but not as much. I would be at art exhibits instead of pursuing my mission. Or she could get upset because I didn’t go to her opening because I was inspired to write.

If you believe in something passionately enough you need to surround yourself with people who will help get you there.

On top of that, when you are with someone who not only gets but wants to help you with what you want from life it’s far more fulfilling than if you were with someone who didn’t.

If on the other hand, if you want a “normal” relationship than it’s ok if she is passionate about something that you aren’t. You are young and I would continue the relationship. There will be a time when you know that your two paths are separating.

Enjoy!

First of all, I want to thank you for chosing your mission to help others in this field. I stumbled this website today and read through pretty much every article non-stop. I’ll have to check back soon to spread out the info-overload.

Right now I have a question about this alinea tho:
“Some women are more yang than most and already have a mission in their lives. We need to honor those women who do not wish to follow in our paths.”

I’m currently dating a beautiful, confident youg woman who is definitly more Yang than any other woman I ever met. She’s a professional dancer (modern dance in theaters after 10 years in ballet-school, not a stripper ) and very ambitious. Her mission is to touch people with her dancing and she’s on a quest to dance until she’s to old to dance and she’s very willing to go live anywhere in the world and leave everything behind to do so.

Now my question. What exactly do you mean by “we have to honor those women”. Does it mean we should leave them be and be happy for them, or that it’s best for them to partner up with more Yin-ish men maybe (someone who will follow her everywhere). Both seem unlogical since she too has the need for love and I guess a woman like her won’t want a wuss-puppy following her around everywhere.

Anyway I myself am pretty Yang, always on the road to improvement ofcourse but is it possible she’ll always be to much on the road to her mission while I’m on mine for us to form a steady and healthy relationship?
This even apart from the fact we might end up living in different countries.
I allready know I better don’t get to serious with her, the long distance thing beeing the main reason. So I’m not desperate to have her, just enjoying life while I’m young and now very curious about your opinion on the yang thing cause it realy applies alot to her.

Thank you for doing this man. I wish you the best of luck with your mission and life.

Peace and love!
Ken