Question: What’s the best way to approach a girl for the first time that you know nothing about, or have not talked to before? And how long should a good conversation last?

Joe.

Answer: The ‘best’ way to approach a girl is both a difficult and simple question to answer. Why? Because it depends on you.

The ‘best’ way is dependent on what you want to achieve.

If you want to start a relationship (whether that be overnight or long term) with woman where you’re stuck in your head all the time, hiding what you’re really thinking and really feeling, just so that she’ll hang out with you…

…then just take some kind of bootcamp, learn some cheap tricks, spend months (if not years) trying to internalise them, and you might find a girl who is silly enough to fall for your tricks.

But, if you want start a relationship (once again, overnight or long term) where you’re just free to be yourself, then the ‘best’ way to approach a woman is start it like that.

If you see an attractive girl and want to talk to her, simply say that.

If you see an attractive girl and want to talk to her but don’t know what to say, say that.

If you see an attractive girl and want to talk to her but you’re nervous about what other people think, then say that.

I’ve got a thread on my forum on this exact thing.

Learn how to approach women naturally here

Now, a lot of guys worry about looking ‘weak’ by doing this: “I can’t just say what I think and how I feel. If she knows that I care about what other people think, she’ll think I’m not manly enough…”

If this is what you think, consider this:

Does it take more strength to pretend like you don’t care what other people think or to do what you want to do, despite the fact you care about what other people think?

Does it take more strength to hide who you are or express who you are?

Something to consider…

One thing I need to make clear. I’m not saying that this approach will get you every girl, every time.

This approach will help you just be free, happy, and open around women without being stuck in your head trying to impress her.

How much would your success with women improve if you able to be free, open, and happy around them?

Now to the second part of your question: how long should a good conversation last?

A good conversation should last as long as it needs to last to achieve it’s outcome.

Yes… I know… Ambiguous shit again… but think about this:

If you have an idea in your head that a conversation needs to last 10 minutes for it to be successful, then you’re going to try and hang in there for 10 minutes, regardless of what’s going on.

What if she’s in a hurry?

What if she’s with her family?

What if her boyfriend is coming back?

Conversely, what if you’re in a hurry?

What if you’re with your family?

What if your other girlfriend is coming back?

And more importantly, what if you could leave her wanting more by walking away before the tension had time to die off?

A good interaction lasts as long as it needs to last to achieve the desired outcome.

What’s the desired outcome?

You want to know what kind of woman she is, you want her to know what kind of Man you are, and if you’re compatible, you want to find a way to contact each other again.

That’s all you need.

How long does that take?

Well, in most cases, she’s already sized you up before you open your mouth.

I know it sounds rough but it’s usually true. High quality women have been hit on by enough guys to be able to tell whether or not you’re the kind of Man she is willing to give a shot before you squeeze out your “Hi, I’m…”

This is actually the best thing possible for you.

Why? Because you can’t convince her to like you. She’s already made up her mind before you speak so there’s really no point in trying to change her mind.

Stop focussing on changing her mind and just have fun. You can’t change her mind so give up on it. Spend your time learning how to have fun, how to laugh, how to enjoy you time with her, regardless of whether she comes wants to be with you.

That way, you’re going to win no matter what.

Now, everything I’ve given you here is the ‘what’ you need to do. It’s a quick tool you can use to start things off.

Now for the ‘how’ you to make this change…

There’s an underlying layer that governs everything in your interactions with women. It determines how easy, effortless and free or difficult, painful, and frustrating things are.

It determines everything that goes on and unless you change it, you’ll be searching for tricks to help you be more attractive to women for ever.

You can read about it in Seduction Community Sucks.

Download it for free from the right hand side now.

Leigh

I get it. I know it’s tough. I know what it feels like to see the girl you want and not be get past your approach anxiety.

On the flip side, I also know what it feels like to be able to beat approach anxiety and walk up to a beautiful woman without going through anything other than intense sense of curiosity.

Sound good? Well, here’s the 6 things that helped me beat approach anxiety forever.

1. Approach anxiety isn’t genetically programmed

Approach anxiety isn’t brought on by your d514 gene activating as a result of your ancestors fear of being kicked out of their tribe or any other evolutionary psychology phenomena.

If it was genetically programmed, you wouldn’t be able to get rid of it.

You can’t change the shape of your eyes (without surgery). You can’t grow another arm.

If approach anxiety was genetically programmed, there’s no way you’d ever be able to eradicate it. Thousands of people have so this is crap.

2. Approach anxiety isn’t caused by anything outside you.

Beautiful women don’t make you experience anxiety, you make you experience anxiety.

You don’t experience ‘nice car anxiety’, you don’t experience ‘beautiful painting anxiety’, you don’t expereince ‘watching a beautiful woman on a TV anxiety’. You experience anxiety want to talk to a beautiful woman. Beautiful women aren’t programmed with some kind of gamma ray that makes you anxious when you see them. God didn’t give her some kind of anxiety spell.

Approach anxiety is something that you create inside yourself when you think about taking on a task that has specific requirements (see next point).

3. The amount of anxiety you experience doing anything in life (especially approaching women) is determined by your perception of your skill and the challenge of the activity.

Mihayli Csikszentmihalyi caem up with the term ‘Flow’ to describe his scientific investigation of ‘being in state’ or ‘being in the zone’.

One of the major findings of his work that ran for over 30 years is that to get into state, the perceived level of challenge in an activity has to equal to the perceived level of skill, at a challenging but achievable level.

When you get this challenge / skill balance, you experience flow / state.

He also discovered was that an imbalance in challenge and skill results in a different experience. When skill exceeds challenge, you get bored. When challenge exceeds skill, you get anxiety.

4. To overcome your approach anxiety, you need to change your perception of skill and / or challenge.

If your perceived skill level matched your perceived challenge level for seducing a woman, you would be ‘in state’ every time you approached a woman. If you’re reading this, then it’s obviously not.

If you’re getting bored when you’re approaching women, it’s because your skill level is too high for the perceived challenge.

If you’re experiencing approach anxiety, it’s because your perceived challenge level is higher than your perceived skill.

If you want to beat approach anxiety forever, you need change either the perceived challenge level or your perceived skill level.

5. Trying to change your skill level to eradicate approach anxiety forever is a flawed method.

Most people think that the easiest part to change in this equation is their perceived skill level.

They go out and either try to prove to themselves that they already have the skill to talk to women by doing warm up sets or they try and increase their skill level by practising techniques and methods on set after set.

This is a flawed method to overcome your approach anxiety.

If you rely on other peoples responses to change your perception of your current skill level then it might work once, or twice, or even a few times, but what happens when it doesn’t (because it’s going to)?

What happens when someone doesn’t want to talk to you? Then you’re right back at square one again – massive approach anxiety because you perceive your skill to be less than the perceived challenge level.

6. To overcome approach anxiety forever, you need to change the perceived challenge.

The challenge level you face in any activity is determined by the purpose you have for the interaction. Whatever you’re trying to achieve determines what you have to do to achieve that goal.

If you’re experiencing anxiety then it’s clear you’re trying to do something that pushes the perceived challenge out of your perceived skill range – like trying to make her attracted to you.

What challenges do you face in trying to make a woman attracted to you?

You have to get within physical proximity of you.

You have to get her attention.

You have to be able to communicate with her.

You have to work out what kind of man she wants.

You have to attempt to demonstrate those characteristics whilst simultaneously hiding who you really are.

This is why you’re experiencing approach anxiety.

You don’t know how to work out what kind of man she’s attracted to and you don’t think you can demonstrate them whilst hiding who you really are, long enough for her to want to be with you.

If you change your purpose to something achievable, then the perception of challenge will drop and so will the anxiety.

If you change your purpose to ‘Trying to find out if she’s the kind of person you want in your life’ then what kind of challenges do you face?

You have to get within physical proximity of her.

You have to be able to communicate with her.

Anything else? No. Nothing.

If you change your purpose to this, then what you’re more likely to experience is boredom due to the lack of challenge and you’re only going to be really interested in women who’re able to really challenge your verbally.

Sound like the kind of life you want?

To start this journey, download your free copy of Seduction Community Sucks from the right hand side of this page.

Inside you’ll find how your purpose relates to every area of your interactions with women and how you can change it so every barrier disappears at once.

Leigh

I’m a man of few words so I’ll keep this short…

They love to fuck as much as we do. Never forget that!

A few drinks deep and trying your best to fight off a migraine from the bass of the house music. Everyone is dancing, drinking and enjoying themselves but you stick to the back with your buddies to have another round. A blond enters your view and quickly catches your attention. Her ill fitting top caresses her tight, silky and artificially tanned body. It fits in all the right places and shows off all of the right parts.

She fills you with the excitement that so many women before her have. What I wouldn’t give to f**k her is the only thought that crosses your mind. A thought so profound that you can’t help but to repeat it to your friends. They laugh and join in with their particulars of what they would do to the girl and what they would do to be able have her. Good times. You no longer see her but the contour and specifics of her body are burned into your mind for the rest of the night.

Sound familiar? I bet it does. You think nothing of it but it’s moments like these that cause you to be nervous around beautiful women and kill your chances of ever being able to be with that girl except in your masturbatory fantasies. When women see guys who show these types of behaviors they automatically get label as a wanker.

What is a Wanker?

A wanker is your typical average guy who sprays his shorts over every decent to hot looking girl that walks by. He is not concerned about whether or not this girl is a snob, a bitch, stuck up, controlling, sweet or has an amazing personality. The ONLY thing he cares about is the way she looks. It doesn’t matter if this girl is on the run from the cops for chopping off her husbands pecker and throwing it out a moving car but just as long as she is attractive he’s happy.

Why is being a wanker detrimental to your success with women?

A large portion of your nervousness around beautiful women comes from the way that you think and treat these women. Whenever you get over excited about a good looking girl coming in the door you are training yourself to put women on a pedestal.

Every time you see an attractive female and think to yourself oh God, she’s so hot you are pushing yourself further and further away being able to actually be with her. This happens for several reasons:

1. Your Self Esteem is Low

She moves and your eyes follow her. Peeking a look at that gorgeous body, while trying your best not to get caught, but she knows you are looking and she knows what you are thinking. In those few brief moments you have already told her that you have a great desire to sleep with her.

You are willing to sleep with a girl without knowing anything about her beside the way she looks. What does that say about you? Or your self esteem? It sends a direct message to the girl that 1) your self esteem is so low that you would sleep with her regardless of whether or not she is the right girl for you and 2) you have no standards when it comes to women.

2. You are Affirming That She is Out of Your League

Most people love the attention they get from their admirers, who look up to them with those loving eyes. Who doesn’t enjoy a good compliment or kindness from a stranger? That type of attention feels good to the ego but kills the attraction every time.

Despite what movies teach you about a love struck romeo who only needs to tell a girl how he feels, showering someone with affection and attention doesn’t equal attraction. Showing her how much you like her doesn’t mean she will get a tingle up her leg.

It’s almost impossible to be attracted to someone who feels BLESSED or would GIVE ANYTHING to JUST BE WITH YOU.

She sees you glaring at her but she knows what lies beneath the surface. She knows that if she was to give you the lightest amount of attention you would almost inevitably think to yourself how could I get this lucky? Wow, this must be a lucky shirt. I’m never taking this off again! If you think that being with her would be the equivalent of winning the lottery then she is out of your league.

3. It Automatically Puts You in the Same Category as Every Other Guy

This wouldn’t be such a bad thing if almost every guy out there understood how to create attraction in women. Unfortunately, this is not the case and you emotional response to a beautiful women will lump you into a category with the rest of the unlucky guys.

Every man that has hit on her inappropriately, grabbed her without consent, stared at her chest with no regard or one of the other million different creepy things that men typically do, will be linked to you. Women are very intuitive, even if they can’t articulate it properly at times, and will pick up on your lust for her. She can tell and you will forever be branded into the creepy category. Once you are placed in that spot there is no coming back.

4. You are in a Position of Weakness Instead of Power

You have trained yourself over the years to have the same emotionally strong response to when a beautiful woman walks by. This response is not one of choice but of compulsion. You see her, she’s hot and you want to automatically sleep with her. There is no gap between the stimulus (hot girl) and your response (sexual excitement).

Power comes from the ability to choose. Whether it’s your friends, job, women, what you do with your time, it’s a matter how choice. The less of a choice you have in these things or how you respond to a situation the less power you will possess.

When she walks by, you are not choosing whether you will allow or not to allow yourself to feel attracted to this woman. You are not choosing the type of response to her physical attractiveness, it simply happens all on it’s own.

Stop Being Nervous Around Women and Move into a Place of Power

Having this type of sexual and emotional reaction to aesthetically appealing women is a force of habit just like any other. It has taken years upon years to train yourself to think and behave this way but it’s very possible to turn it all around. It will take time but the payoff is worth the wait.

Here are simply things you can start doing now to stop this automatic process:

1. Stop Talking to Your buddies about Hot Girls

There is a slight sense of camaraderie that goes along with making jokes and talking about how gorgeous some women are. It brings you together through a common interest. It helps you to make friends but at the end of the day having choice with women is far more valuable then a few jokes.

Whenever you do this you are reinforcing a negative behavior with something positive. Your negative behavior is getting over excited about some girl you saw and reinforcing it with a positive socially accepting response from your friends. It’s the high you get from a fix when you know you shouldn’t doing it in the first place.

Completely stop talking to your friends about these women. No more dude, did you see that girl? or OMG, she is frickin hot. I would love to (fill in the blank) her. Your mind might continue with these thoughts but they still don’t need to go anywhere but your mind.

2. Understand that beauty is NOT a BIG DEAL

So often in our culture do we praise and worship beautiful people. You see it in ads, magazines, billboards. Women and men are held in high regard for something they didn’t earn. Good looks is something that is given naturally with a few tweaks along the way. They didn’t work for it and earn it through sweat and persistence. No, it’s something that they were born with.

Whenever your mind starts up with it’s thoughts about how amazing that girl looked, remind yourself that looks are not that big of a deal. The men who are most successful with women don’t really care too much what she looks like. The girl has to be good looking for them to be biologically turned on but they don’t make a big fuss over how the girl looks. They appreciate a good looking woman but it doesn’t make their day or they don’t sport wood over it-she’s cute in a nonchalant tone.

If you are still having a tough time understanding that looks aren’t that big of a deal you need to spend more time with beautiful women. People who live in small towns get very excited about hot women because so few are around but if you lived in California or New York good looking women are a dime a dozen.

Go out to a club with intention of getting rid of your wanker response. Go in and take a look around at all the beautiful women and tell yourself it’s not that big of a deal.

3. Stop Watching Porn

Well, at least for now. When you get off to images or videos of beautiful women you are creating wonderful fantasies about these women. You are instilling the belief that YOU CAN’T GET THESE WOMEN. The only time you are able to have these women in through your mind, computer screen and a cheap bottle of hand lotion.

You might not think of much of your happy time but you mind thinks a lot of it. It reinforces the belief that You are NOT GOOD ENOUGH to be able to attract beautiful women.

Most masturbating isn’t an act of self exploration done in an attempt to further your sexuality but more in a hurried act of nervousness with one hand on your piece and one eye on the door. You are nervous about getting caught and this uneasiness gets associated with beautiful women. Your mind generalizes things and it will take the nervousness you felt to one beautiful porn star you got off to and link it to all beautiful women.

When the I’m not good enough feelings get accompanied by your nervousness from your porn habits you end up with very bad social interactions. A good bit of your confidence in talking with women comes from having positive experiences. If your nervous the first time talking to women from your shades down lotion out activities the interaction will leave you with a negative impression of talking to women. If you continue to watch porn and still try to talk to women your nervousness around approaching them will only get worse.

Throw out your Jergens and close your account with your choice porn site-it’s for the best. If you can’t seem to find something to fill the time left by your porn habits read this article:

http://innergamereframe.com/is-porn-good-for-you/

4. Develop Standards When it Comes to Women

Earlier in this article I mentioned coming from a place of power instead of weakness and standards is the best way to do this. Standards allow you to override that gut level reaction to the sexual Goddess. You still feel it but asking yourself is she the type of girl I want? will allow that response to be greatly reduced.

Normally, men question their own value and wonder if they are good enough for the girl. This leads to all sorts of approval seeking which can kill the attraction and make you very nervous. Instead of underestimating your own value, ask yourself if she is good enough for you? Does she meet your standards?

When you ask yourself if this girl is good enough for you it changes the whole dynamic. The anxiety is minimized and often times becomes none existent. You are also placed in a position of choice instead of merely reacting to what is happening to you.

Get into a habit of having standards for every attractive woman you see. When you see her, automatically ask yourself is she a nice person? Does she look like a giver or a taker? Will she be right for me? Even if you never speak to these women still ask yourself these questions.

You can even take is a step further by qualifying everyone that you talk to. Not in an arrogant I’m better than everyone type of way but in a will this person be good for me? Will they hurt me or help me?

Most men fear developing standards because they are in such desperation for to take anything they can get. The irony is that if you are willing to take anything you can get often you will end up with nothing or scrapping at the bottom of the barrel. Women can smell confidence and self esteem on you and taking anything that will give you the time or day lacks these things. Why would that girl want to be part of that anything you can get category?

Keeping Standards to Draw in More Abundance and Eliminate Neediness

A large factor that goes into success is determined by the company you keep. If you surround yourself by negative, pessimistic, narcissistic people they will bring you down with them. Even if you believe yourself to be very positive and motivated you will soon be rolling around in the dirt.

Enthusiasm, motivation and drive is contagious and so is apathy. If you have none of the positive qualities I speak of and have no desire for them developing standards will not be needed. If on the other hand you strive for a life of meaning and one worth having then standards is a must. Every person you ALLOW into YOUR life can has the potential to help fulfill that dream or bring it to a halt.

Every woman, no, every person you meet should live up to your standards. If they don’t you need keep looking until you find the right woman and the right set of people to surround yourself with.

Creating and maintaining standards will actually draw more people into your life. If follow through and uphold your standards by saying no to certain people a great deal of your neediness will melt away.

Neediness at the core is being scared of being alone and miserable. Once you burst through this fear by letting go of certain people in your life you will realize that you can say good bye and still survive. You will learn that you can be selective and still be happy.

With a large portion of your neediness out of the way you will become more attractive to other people because nothing is less attractive to women (basically everyone) than neediness. The strength that has replaced the spot where your neediness once existed will draw abundance of people into your life.

Building attraction in women is all about the right things while avoiding the wrong. Depending on what you do on a date she can either fall in love with you in moments or pick up a phone call from a friend bailing her out.

Here is a list of the right things to do:

1. Stop saying just kidding after telling a joke that is a little insulting

You were doing great by insulting her and keeping it funny but you blew it the second just kidding came out of your mouth. Unless you were out for blood when you told the joke there is no need to let her know you weren’t being serious.

When you follow your joke up with just kidding the only thing she hears is I’m sorry, please, please, please don’t disapprove of me, you still like me right?  You think nothing of it but she hears all of that when you speak those two detrimental little words-just kidding. It’s obvious that you were just joking and there is no need to say it unless you fear her getting upset.

With two words you have told her and everyone else that you fear not being liked. Women don’t want men who are affected by the opinions of others. They want men who apologize to no one and put little value on what other people think.

Ultimately you want to get to a place where you don’t care what other people think of you but that takes time. For now, just start by eliminating the phrase ‘just kidding’ and become comfortable with the idea that women might get upset by what you say.

It’s the fear of disapproval that causes women to lose attraction for men. I get away with jokes and insults that most people would get scolded for because of how congruent I am. I stick to my guns and could care less if the girl gets upset or walks away. It’s my complete disregard for their approval that allows me to get away with anything while creating more and more attraction.

2. Stop Asking if she is ok

Asking if someone is ok when they are visibly upset or crying is fine but asking a girl if she is ok during a date is not. When you are out on a date with a girl and you ask her if she is ok,  she feels your neediness. You are basically asking her if she is still attracted to you and making sure the date is going well. You say are you ok? but she hears am I doing ok with you?

The very act of asking will cause the dynamic of the date to change. That question will actually cause her to become upset and lose attraction for her. You are worried that not everything is going as planned and your question becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

If she is not ok then she will make it very obvious. If the date isn’t going well don’t panic because it’s not that big of a deal. You check up on her because you are greatly attached to how the date will end. You worry about losing her and your plan is to correct any ‘wrong’ behaviors you are doing in order to keep her in the game.

If you are out there talking to several women a week then you won’t have to care whether or not this one goes well because another date is right around the corner.

3. Leaning back when you talk to people

Nothing spells neediness and fear like leaning in when talking to other people. Leaning in when you talk is similar to a little kid pulling on their parents shirt for attention. Seeking attention equals lack of attraction.

Become a rock when you socialize. Hold your ground and never let your upper body lean in when she talks. If there is something that you can’t quite hear, ask her to repeat herself and let her get closer to you.

This doesn’t  mean for you to become snobbish and disinterested in the person you are talking to. Aloof might seem like a good idea but it is the wrong way to go about getting women attracted to you. You will start to attract the wrong type of women if you take this route.

4. Breathing during a conversation

Interacting with women can become nerve wrecking at times. Your mind is racing, heart pulsing and your stomach feels like how it would after a bachelor party. Breathing can help you curb some of this nervousness you feel.

At first it will be very difficult to take long deep breathes when you are extremely nervous. In time you will start to anticipate that anxiety rising and you will breathe deeply to relax yourself.

Think of a time when you felt extremely comfortable and relaxed when interacting with other people. Odds are good that you were funny, smart and did all of the right things without even trying. Everything just seemed natural, didn’t it? Learn to develop that calm state through breathing deeply around women and in social situations.

5. Not saying much at all when you are talking to people

I’m sure a lot of you talk far more than you should when interacting with women. Half of what you say isn’t really important or interesting but you say it anyways. It serves to fill the conversation because you fear that oh so dreaded awkward silence. Learn to become comfortable with awkward silence.

Stop saying yeah when you can’t think of anything better to say.

Stop simply waiting your turn to speak and actually listen to the person talk.

Take a week or even a month and talk as half of much as you normally do. You will learn about a million different lessons but the most important lessons to take away are:

1.  You can CHOOSE when to talk and when not to talk. Choice is powerful and power is extremely attractive to women

2.  You can stop talking as much and everything will be OK. People who talk too much do so because they fear not being liked. They believe that the more they talk to more people will pay attention to them and bettering their chances of being liked.

6. Learning to hold eye contact with people

A large indicator to women that you have low self esteem and low confidence is your ability or inability to hold eye contact-it’s all in the eyes. Shy people have a very difficult time looking other people in the eyes and surprise, surprise they also do very horrible with women.

When you talk to people look them in the eyes. At first you will go overboard with this and come off as creepy but that’s ok because there is no such thing as failure. Over time you will learn to gain balance between no eye contact and too much eye contact.

Walk down the street and try to catch the eyes of any women you see. Hold that eye contact till THEY look away. If you are having difficulty  with this exercise I suggest wearing sunglasses so you can see them but they can’t see your eyes.

7.  Taking your time when you speak

There are people who naturally talk fast but a lot of this behavior is learned and thus can be unlearned. It’s a force of habit that needs to be replaced by talking very….very…slowly.

When you think of a slow talker think of James Bond. The way he introduced himself to women was extremely attractive. He had women soaking their panties within seconds and all he did was tell them his name. This would never happen if he had introduced himself like a crack head in a hurry trying to get a fix.

Take a moment to pause and breathe before saying anything. There is no need to rush when what you have to say is important.

8. Not letting people interrupt you when you talk

Dominance is attractive. Leading is attractive. Letting other people run the conversation is not. If it’s a fun conversation and people interrupt you, that can be forgiven but not when you have something worth while.

If you are trying to tell a story or make a point don’t let ANYONE, including her, interrupt you. Talking over them by raising your voice will quell any of those annoying interrupters. If they continue to do this you can stop and tell them shhh-it will get the point across.

9. Taking your hands out of your pockets and eliminating your social anxiety release

There are many ways to deal with uncomfortable situations and one of the biggest is sticking your hands in your pockets. Don’t do that. Instead of trying to release your social anxiety by closing off your body learn to relax and open up. Here are a couple of things that people do when they are nervous that they shouldn’t:

*Hands in pockets
*Looking away
*Fixing their shirt
*Fidgeting
*Playing with their cell phones

Women will feel that your nervousness and become uncomfortable . Ultimately the goal is not to be uncomfortable or nervous at all but for now you can work on dealing with your anxiety.

Most people use the above to run away from their anxiety like they have been trained to do. Embrace the awkward moments because there will be many. Learn to face your anxiety head on instead of trying to avoid it.

10. Stop Fake Laughter

How many times a day do you laugh at things that aren’t really truly funny? I’m guessing a lot because I used to do the same thing. Faking laughter happens for a couple of reasons:

1.  We are nervous
2.  We want the approval of others
3.  Giving approval to others

You are worried that the other person might feel bad about making a bad joke so you laugh out of courtesy. You fear that if you don’t laugh they won’t like you as much as they did before. Women can tell whether or not you are being genuine and laughing at bad jokes is not. They feel it and some of the attraction will be lost along the way.

If you a big time offender of this act then I would suggest not laughing at any jokes for a short while to balance things out. Maybe give them a smile so they won’t think you are a souless sociopath who can’t comprehend basic humor.

Watch this video from www.collegehumor.com to get an idea of what I’m talking about. When the girl meets the other guys and one of them asks her so, where do you work?and she responds I work at a PR firm, it’s a living the men crack up laughing. It wasn’t a funny joke but they laughed to gain her approval.

Guilty of Doing ANY of the ABOVE? Leave a comment and tell me about it