Comments on: Being Vulnerable and Increasing the Attraction

By: Diane

Diane — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 00:10:15 +0000

I wish I knew how to be vulnerable. It has created such a hindrance for me in every area of my life for so long now. Thank you for writing these articles.

By: Alex Strandberg

Alex Strandberg — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 15:53:23 +0000

And admitting your weaknesses without rationalizing them or downplaying or judging them will create a large amount of strength inside of yourself. Some of those ‘weaknesses’ will come with a plan on how to overcome them and others will not be so easy. Accept the ones who want to take root and allow your mind to work out the problem.

A good suggestion would be finding a way to get all of your problems out on the table. Whether it’s a good friend, journal or a therapist, just find some way to let go of the consequences and completely let go and get all of that past junk off of your chest. Getting it out will allow you to heal tremendously.

SBC,

Walking up to a stranger and disclosing all of your deepest darkest secrets to them would definitely not be a good idea-unless you are paying them.

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seduction boot camp — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 06:39:48 +0000

I like this article, without a doubt it is a sign of confidence to be able to simply be what you really are in front of someone. Unfortunately, this type of message is often lost to people who suffer from low self esteem. I think a lot of this stuff boils down to one's own sense of identity. What we choose to identify with plays a large role in our ability to feel 'ok' letting our guard down in front of another human being. This should also be tempered with a little common sense though, I am certainly not going to completely open up and throw my emotional baggage on a girl I just met. There is a time and a place for everything.

By: cat

cat — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 20:37:43 +0000

spot on! Nice to read something that is not wrapped up in waffle about how to try to please everyone else to find happiness. Men often find it difficult to be verbally demonstrative and women tend to destroy their own self esteem trying to please men (which they think will make men more demonstrative) which it wont!!!

If you list what you think are you weaknesses you will also see your strengths that are attached to them.
For example: weaknesses = impulsive, jealous, stubborn, secretive, obsessive, critical and opinionated.
This same persons strengths when channelled constructively into a project can be = energetic, devoted, determined, reliable, observant and honest.

Don’t change who you are for anyone, because they will never love you for it!

By: Beagle

Beagle — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 17:59:40 +0000

I love your articles. I think you’re helping a lot of people.

Once I was seeing some I REALLY liked. I was so nervous around her, and I was scared to death my nervousness would run her off. I decided just to tell her i was nervous around her. i just said it and she told me she was nervous around me too. We went on to have a great relationship. I think you’re dispelling a common myth; that we can’t be vulnerable with women. I think vulnerability is fine. You do a good job of emphasizing that neediness is a relationship killer.